Design Your Life
Talking to my friend across the world I noticed that she has had a life of stability. Everything mapped for her. Every step of her journey including all of the amenities one wishes to have; decided, prepared, food, and with very comfortable, exciting, and personal living and sleep accommodations haha. Traveling to her was not an escape, as it is for some people. Which is cool too :p -It’s just, in this case, after traveling in college and experiencing the risk, the unknown, THE DIFFERENCE, the memorable moments, and all that is hers and only hers; once graduated she jumped on a plane and went as far across the world as she could. Seeking more, thinking, climbing, expressing, cooking, enjoying, learning, risking, overcoming, and most importantly DESIGNING. She’s putting the already made map down and grabbed a fresh one for the time being. She paused the next chapter and decided to write three in between, on her own accord. Followin that lovin feelin. Letting her smile lead. Seeking more.
What everyone already knows is risk takes sacrifice. You seem to always be sacrificing something in any decision you make. If it’s traveling across the world you are sacrificing all that you know; family, friends, job, safety, assurance, and quite possibly overcoming the whole “fear of missing out” syndrome. So you make the sacrifice and you go! And you learn so much and you gain so much and then you come home. Now there’s a different sacrifice that needs to be made; spending some time into reestablishing yourself, paying off some debt, and working again but this time with the layer of that incredible experience still upon you. Its okay and good. You are now regaining stability, you are applying all that you have learned, and you might even be saving money for the next adventure. Which evens out IN THE LONG RUN. And I feel that the more we understand that there issss soooo mucchhhh life to be lived we gain a better understanding that there is a time and place for all of our decisions and to follow the one that may seem like it makes the most sense for now or the most sense for later.
Risk is Risk man. And with greater risk comes even greater reward.
My friend Jared just moved back to Boston after staying in San Diego a year because he couldn’t deal with the day to day money debt cloud over his head. So he’s investing a year with his Paps, making money, living at home in the snow, and returning to his past life for a bit. After California, that was THE LAST THING JARED WANTED TO DO. But, he’s following his bliss because he knows, that after he pays it all off, he’s flying here DEBT FREE. Everything could be different, everything could be the same, but whatever. All he knows is that from this point on with the understanding that he’s learned from living in California that the possibilities of this world are endless. And to come from a world where materialistic value systems run the machine and then to step off the plane and befriend the most “less is more” type of people, changed him. He will never be the same. And all he’ll do from now on is consciously seek the other side of the coin.
Seek that more.
Seek that truth.
But you don’t need to travel to know risk and to know sacrifice. Travel is awesome and everyone needs to leave their bubbles even if its for a weekend, a month, or a year or two. However drastically different the setting. But, for some people risk isn’t traveling but investing it into their dreams. Whoever said working and using the money to immediately produce and achieve dream goals is bad? Its not! Its risky! But its risk..Work can be a temporary thing. You don’t have to dive into a career so early these days to be happy and successful. Theres nothing wrong with starting your career either! I’m just saying that every person is so intricately different with different backgrounds and current situations and not to mention the advancements of technology, I mean there is no one way to do almost anything. In regards to locations and work and passion and jobs and school etc. (side note: there is one way to be and sustain no matter where you are in life and that is a person that is good to themselves and others and lives in love).
LIFE HAS OPTIONS!! And with those beautiful ingredients you can blend a lil travel and lil dream and a lil work and do it all!
But a life without risk is stagnant young people! Knowing that anything is possible at any moment is so important! Knowing that at any moment the rug could be swept from under you or that you can consciously switch gears and take a risk and start your own venture, union, business, relationship, etc. I am just saying…its the risk thats key. The only requirement I believe strengthens you as a person, your faith in yourself, your faith in people, & your faith in God is risk. With risk you naturally are overcoming every self-made fear and limitation. You naturally sacrifice and surrender what think you know and you automatically begin to seek. And as you receive these experiences, encounters, and things -you gain a clearer idea of what you were looking for-whether you have been aware of it or not.
I just moved to San Clemente and have taken a risk just like I did on my own two and half years ago to San Diego but for different reasons. I flew from Los Angeles and its pain, and no accountability, and no community, and lies, and rejection, and materialism, and all that crap on the wings of faith and hope in finding what is true in this world. San Diego ringing in my ear, I sought out truth, pureness, real, natural, genuine; expression, people, experiences and encounters. Not normal but true. And that I did. After two and half years of filtering, that I did. So now I have moved north, inspired by a Bliss Paddle Board Yoga position and some incredible humans, on those same wings of Faith and Hope; applying everything that I have learned, keeping my beloved in my heart, and continuing to follow my bliss wherever that may take me.
With the help of beautiful friends and close family I have been able to take risks, fall, get back up, and keep running. Every step I have added a new color to my canvas capturing what it is I want to hold onto and express through who I am. I have been able to DESIGN my life to this point with their help and now I have all sorts of layers to add on!
Thank you to all of you who have and still influence me so positively and inspiringly. We all help generate each others energy with the love that we have for each other. Love is all you need.