I’ve learned that life is about decisions. We have relationships with people so they help guide you, mentor you, and give their perspective on whats best for you. Discern those words; listen but reflect and decide whether those words come from goodness or ego/darkness/not the will of God.
As you go through life, you have these people that KNOW you: your habits, your weaknesses, and your strengths. But what if you are someone who protects themselves from people really knowing who you are? What if you are someone who only lets people see what you want them to see? What if you are someone who is always traveling and people don’t get the time to get to know you? What if people are afraid to know you? What if people are afraid of the truth you carry?
Fear sucks out energy. Fear is the absence of life. Fear is the only enemy. You cannot see purely or make good decisions in this state of mind, because you have made agreements with lies. And we can slip so easily into it.
Why be suspicious about another person? Huh? What’s there to be suspicious about? Did that person do something wrong to you? Are you feeling neglected? Are you feeling rejected? Are you feeling abandoned? Are you scared they are going to leave you? What is happening here? This wonder you might have has an answer.
The answer is ask. Confront them. Doesn’t mean argue with them. Ask the person about your wonder.
When you make it a suspicion and then continue on that road with planning an investigation against them, you’re subjecting yourself to many unhealthy habits. Plus, your body will react negatively to this type of mental stress. Be proactive about it. Ask them. You might be totally wrong and you need to find out, or you might be totally right and your relationship needs tending.
To blame is to pass on your own accountability onto another person. You cannot blame someone for why you feel the way you feel or why you make the decisions you make. It’s healthy to consider another person, to make a decision and discuss it with them and come to an agreement. To blame them for anything and everything usually aligns with unhealthy boundaries. This means you are putting them in the drivers seat of your actions and your life. They cannot control you. You only control you.
Some people always blame themselves and become the pit of everyone else’s accountability; I’m kind of figuring out that this is almost 100% of the reasons why we do anything hurtful to ourselves is, because we feel as though we are being hurt or have been hurt by someone else.
Blame is a crutch that holds your victimhood up.
FEAR DRIVES ITSELF IN THE LANE BETWEEN THE CONNECTION.
Whether scared about deciding whats next for the day, or for tomorrow, or your career, or where you’re going to live next, or something for next month, or for 6 months, or for 5 years, or 25 years…..you get scared. And you can easily “project” like a movie projector onto a screen, or in this instance onto a person, that FEAR inside of you. You mask it and translate it into the language of the relationship you have.
Truth will always set you free and the truth is to love each other on purpose
Allow yourself the blessing and opportunity to get to know the person inside and out, and allowed this person to speak FREELY and act FREELY with no judgement or blame just pure openness and love, then you will build a beautiful trusting empowering relationship that even the world will have to know and value.
Advice: TAKE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR DECISIONS. LIVE A LIFE OF PRAISE. Praise people, compliment them, love them, see them for the beautiful treasure that they are, that they were made to be.
CELEBRATE THEIR VICTORIES NO MATTER HOW SMALL!!
Don’t judge a situation you have never been in. Do not judge what you dont understand! And if you have been in that situation be empathetic and guide them in the right direction. I’ve been practicing not comparing or competing and it is very freeing. People are them and you are you. That simple. When you judge someone you are setting your self up for judgement. People will see you as that person who measures their lives around judgements and judge you in the same way. That is not a happy way to live. The only thing you can judge is the advice they give you the affect they have on you and what you choose to believe.
We’re suppose to be “free!” Our fore-fathers based this country on freedom. Freedom to pursue happiness; because happiness isn’t something you attain, happiness is something that you are and get better and better and better and better at. If you don’t understand a person, instead of judging them, I say try listening and focusing on what they are really saying. People have so much to offer your world!
You don’t understand something so you say some remark to pervert it so you gain a sense of control over the situation and then you have this feeling, you feel this “gratification” from saying it but its temporary. But if you tried understanding it, then it could be something beautiful and impactful forever. Appreciate beauty, admire it, honor its beautiful glory and respect it.
Moments are to be learned from. People are to be learned from.
Don’t pull it into your hole of fear and vulgarity because you’re scared of it or the truth of it! Its not cool. Remember? Life is about decisions. Every day, all day are choices and opportunities of happiness. And when all the ingredients behave as should be, it creates a point of destiny that changes you for the positive forever. But I feel like there is only a few of us that believe we Are our destiny. We possess it inside of us at all times.
You are the DREAM. YOU CARRY YOUR DESTINY WHEREVER YOU GO!!!!!!!!!!!
People say that the best idea in life is having your “work” be something that you “love” cause its sweet to do what you love and make money doing it. But you have to do what you love first! Then the money will follow, IT WILL COME TO YOU. It doesnt have to be this grandiose idea either, it happens in baby steps. Walking down the road of life, sometimes sprinting, sometimes jogging sometimes dodging or maneuvering but keeping your balance and strength and most importantly …sustaining the belief of your destiny . ~~~~~~
ALL OF THE CHARACTER THAT YOU BUILT INSIDE OF YOU CAN CARRY WITH YOU WHEREVER YOU GO. YOU ARE YOUR OWN BUSINESS. LEAD YOURSELF. BE THE YOU GOD CREATED YOU TO BE. ENJOY YOUR ALONE TIME. HAVE FUN. BE BEAUTIFUL. COMMIT TO WHAT’S REAL.
“I was not created to live under water
because I would drown.
I was not created to tread water
so that I can only look around
I was created to walk on water
because the world is my ground! the world is my ground! the world is my ground!
circumstances will always be
all that matters is how you see
and FEAR is a binding thing
it keeps your eyes from opening
the grass is bright green no matter
WHERE YOU ARE!!!!!!!!
the sky is blueeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
behind EVERY STORM!
so my friend
the time is now
the time is HERE
TO LIVE AMONGST
…life happens in moments. dont get too attached to a moment …so you can create a new one. new and improved. 🙂
if you feel like flying. come fly with me.
you have a problem…lets find the solution